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Lessons learned

Quincy said he thinks we are MFEO (which took much bugging and internet searching to discover means "meant for each other"). We had a little chat about that, and I realized something about my relationship with Tam.

I could have walked away from that situation with one of two lessons; either never fall in love again because it will only leave you hurting and bitter, or be more self-aware and open to your feelings so that when you fall in love again you don't dick around and lose him in the process.

I'm very happy I learned the latter lesson, and I'm very happy I have Q in my life.

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weirddave
Sep. 26th, 2003 10:35 am (UTC)
Wait, it's not Mother Fucking Effeminite Oddball?

Geeze, my whole world is out of whack now. Up is down, left is right....


NOTHING MAKES SENSE ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!


:p :p :p
esprix
Sep. 26th, 2003 11:36 am (UTC)
I thought it meant we "miss fucking each other," but I found out that was wrong. (Imagine my surprise!)
lilairen
Sep. 26th, 2003 11:18 am (UTC)
I would just like to say that picking up bits of your relationship starting from the board and seeing comments here in your journal leaves a nice, warm, contented feeling somewhere around here.

It's good to see happy people. Mmmmmmmm.
esprix
Sep. 26th, 2003 11:38 am (UTC)
Aw, thanks. Someone IRL said to me, "I'm glad you found a relationship," and I corrected her by saying, "I'm glad I found Quincy." I've never been the kind to want to either be single or be in a relationship - I've seen too many relationships fail because one was looking to fill the "insert boyfriend HERE" slot in their life, desperate to find companionship - ANY companionship - and ignoring the fact that the person they found to fill the role isn't a match for them. It's all just so... bitter. But neither Q nor I are like that - we're happy to be with each other, and glad that a relationship grew out of that happiness.

Subtle differences, but important to me.
lilairen
Sep. 26th, 2003 11:46 am (UTC)
Yeah, a lot of people seem to have the whole "If I don't have a relationship, it's a sign that I'm defective/inadequate/thingy" thing going. It leaves me feeling sort of sad, really, and occasionally like going and beating up pop culture. ;)


You keep being happy, y'hear? My own warm fuzzies don't satisfy me, I want vicarious warm fuzzies!
galinalady
Sep. 26th, 2003 12:20 pm (UTC)
May I ask.. how long have you been with Quincy?

It is great to see others happy. :)
esprix
Sep. 26th, 2003 12:49 pm (UTC)
A mere three and a half months.
galinalady
Sep. 26th, 2003 02:09 pm (UTC)
Awww... that is great though!
akirashima
Sep. 27th, 2003 03:54 pm (UTC)
YAY you figured out the key to the matrix. More people should realize that what they are searching for is not "relationship" but a real person Someone good for them and that they are good for and everything just clicks right when you do. so many people stifle themselves in dysfunctional relationships because of fears of being alone or inadequate
esprix
Sep. 29th, 2003 09:49 am (UTC)
Don't forget society's pressure to get married. Salma Hayek said she thinks for some women, marriage is about needing "a contract for validation of love." As if the only way to get self-validation is to not only have a little piece of paper that proves to yourself that you are loved, but you can also prove to other people that you are loved.
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