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Q is calling his sister to see if she's ok with him bringing me home for Christmas. If she says she isn't, he has to decide if he's going without me or not, and how he'll deal with it. Ugh.

Edited to add: COP OUT! She says that since it's their parents house, he has to get permission from his mother. HA! Like that'll happen. She refused to answer him when he asked her for her own opinion. She says that his priorities "aren't the family's" and that if she lets him come with me without their mother's permission it looks like she's taking sides against their mother.

He's not sure what he's going to do next. He's pretty mad. Argh. So frustrating. I'm so glad my family's not like this.

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thespian
Nov. 30th, 2005 05:29 am (UTC)
But you're delightful company. it's not like you're going to start making out under the mistletoe.
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 05:30 am (UTC)
Well *I* know that, but his sister and family are less than accepting - even of someone as fabulous as me! Can you imagine? :D
iampunha
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:05 am (UTC)
I cannot, even. I thought being attracted to Asian men was a sure-in for inclusion at most family events -- regardless of the family. "Hey, wait. Who're you?" families ask. Then you tell them you go for Asian guys and the next thing you know, someone's handing you a Bud Light. (Poor choice of beer, granted, but it's the thought that counts.)

And hell, it's not like you're going to ask anyone to pass the homosexual the gravy. It'd go straight to yer thighs;)


Incidentally, it looks like his sister accepts him more than their mother does, but is afraid of going outside the delineated opinion. But you've much more of a handle on this than I do. Just an observation:)
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:09 am (UTC)
Oh no - she's firmly in the mother's corner, and that is that Quincy doesn't have to be a homo if he doesn't want to be, he's just doing it to spite them. (Or whatever fucked up reason have to hate their kids.) He repeatedly asked her what SHE thought, and she wouldn't answer the question, and was quite argumentative about it. She seems like the type that has to be RIGHT about everything, and Quincy is clearly, to her, wrong. They treat him like a child, saying they "can't trust him." It's so frustrating and sad - here he is saying, "All I wanted to do was see my family for Christmas," and they're giving him all kinds of shit for it.

I'm so very, very glad my mother's not like this.
harlkyn
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:26 am (UTC)
Who the hell sucks dick just to spite someone?? *confused*
boywhocantsayno
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:29 am (UTC)
Oh, didn't you know? We all chose to be gay and expose ourselves to the risk of being bashed just for the hell of it and to give society the finger.

esprix, you have my sympathies. My mother is a bitch at times (hell, most of the time), and while my father accepts my homosexuality, and would be willing to meet a boyfriend of mine (if I had one), he'd be extremely uncomfortable if we did so much as kiss in his line of sight.
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:32 pm (UTC)
As I said, I'm thankful that although my family may have its problems, we're past all this particular bullshit.
iampunha
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:35 am (UTC)
Some people go goth. Some people join the army. Some people become English majors and write reams of angsty poetry. Some people do drugs enough to kill a small African nation and/or steal from anyone around them.

And some of us go licking boys...
minotaurs
Nov. 30th, 2005 05:37 am (UTC)
If you stay on the East Coast, you can come up and visit me in Baltimore. I'll be there from the 22nd - 27th.
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:09 am (UTC)
That would rock, actually. :)
phreespirit
Nov. 30th, 2005 05:51 am (UTC)
And I'll be in lovely Conshohocken, PA from Dec 18-28. And I'll be doing sightseeing in Washington DC on Dec 20 & 21.

I plan to fart *A LOT* in the White House.
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:10 am (UTC)
FART A STINKY ONE FOR ME!
jezebelleinhell
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:13 am (UTC)
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

inlaws from hell

AKA Outlaws.
bovil
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:50 am (UTC)
Put 'em on the defensive.

"Well, I really wanted to come, but if you want to drive me away, I guess you're going to drive me away. Family obviously isn't important as you say it is."

That's a start.

On the other hand, where's the destination? Go, get a hotel room, and when they pull the bullshit, feed them the line and spend the rest of the time somewhere fun away from the drama.
minotaurs
Nov. 30th, 2005 04:52 pm (UTC)
I'm voting with bovil on this one - the best defence is a good offence.
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:34 pm (UTC)
It's Sacramento.

And although you'd think that ploy would work, I can guarantee you it wouldn't - they'd still blame him for asking to bring me in the first place, so it's not *their* fault, it's *his*. Trust me - even hearing one side of the conversation, it's obvious they think that allowing me to come is "endorsing his choices."

Traditional Filipino Catholics - these are not easily swayed people. I mean, his mother had a heart attack after seeing a picture of two men kissing. A literal, honest-to-goodness heart attack. Hospital stay and everything.
caprine
Nov. 30th, 2005 09:22 pm (UTC)
Holy crap. I imagine that a photo of a blowjob would make her head literally explode, with bone shrapnel everywhere. I hope she doesn't use the Intarweb; she might accidentally see something that would kill her.
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 09:41 pm (UTC)
And to top it off, it was Q's fault - he was bored in Guam and went to some websites, not knowing that the temporary internet folder was the one linked to the screen saver. Um, oops? :(
schnuder
Nov. 30th, 2005 07:20 am (UTC)
*big hugs*
akirashima
Nov. 30th, 2005 09:07 am (UTC)
you really wanna destroy them
tell them i was the alternative
Suddenly you come up roses!

Sigh. And this is why i have never told my parents i was gay. i know it would just make endless drama. even if they accepted it! mom would be pissed for not telling her sooner. and god forbid she found out my last boyfriend was black! Holy hell!
so yeah umm I would suggest giving them more time to adjust and go see your family and friends. maybe he could see his on new years or something to diffuse things or something

HUGS
bearon68
Nov. 30th, 2005 03:24 pm (UTC)
IF YOUR FAMILY IS MORE POSITIVE ,
HAVE CHRISTMAS WITH THEM
AND STOP IN FOR DESERT OR SOMETHING WITH THE INLAWS
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:31 pm (UTC)
Re: IF YOUR FAMILY IS MORE POSITIVE ,
Mine are in Philly, his are in Sacramento - kind of difficult to commute. :)
esprix
Nov. 30th, 2005 06:34 pm (UTC)
The worst part is, it's not really his sister he wants to see - it's his niece (her daughter) and is brother (who is living with her).
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