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A beautiful echo from my father


A most amazingly beautiful thing happened to my mother today.

Since my father passed away she's been making a lot of conscious effort to make sure she doesn't turn into some bitter old widow. A lot of friends and family have been going out of their way for her, even now almost a year after Dad died. So far she's been to various places with my sisters, gone to New York City for the first time in her life, etc. She's even going to Walt Disney World with our good family friends for Thanksgiving, and they leave tomorrow morning, which is why I called her tonight (Quincy and I fly in on Thursday to meet her there).

When I called she wasn't home, which was a little odd for a Friday night. She called me back later to tell me she'd been out bowling, of all things. Turns my uncle (her brother), aunt and cousin all bowl on a league and they needed someone to fill in, so my mother figured what the heck - nothing good on TV anyway.

Now keep in mind my mother hasn't bowled in many, many years, but she used to bowl in a league and I knew she had her own shoes and bowling ball, so I asked her if she used them. She said she didn't bother with the shoes, but she found her old ball in the attic. She got it down, took it out, and started cleaning through the bag.

She found a note in a side pocket in my father's handwriting that simply said, "I love you."

She hasn't touched that ball in years. He must have put it in there that long ago for her to find someday. Just because he loved her.

I had the most amazing father, and I will always strive, as odd as it sounds, to be as good of a husband to Quincy as he was to Mom.

I miss you, Dad.

Comments

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lilairen
Nov. 20th, 2004 01:03 am (UTC)
Wow.

That's a good partner to aspire to be.

Thank you for sharing.
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:52 am (UTC)
I always say that the secret to the success of my parents 45-year marriage is that my father put my mother on a pedestal and my mother was pleased to be there. :)
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:52 am (UTC)
(Oh, and Quincy doesn't seem to mind that philosophy one bit!)
sa_am
Nov. 20th, 2004 01:38 am (UTC)
that is SO SWEET
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:52 am (UTC)
He was a helluva guy. :)
gingy
Nov. 20th, 2004 05:02 am (UTC)
How lovely!
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:52 am (UTC)
I know! Some people are like, oh, that's so sad, and I'm like, um, why?
bescincimevsim
Nov. 20th, 2004 06:14 am (UTC)
That's so touching...
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:53 am (UTC)
That's the kind of guy he was.
bescincimevsim
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:56 am (UTC)
He sounds like a good bloke...
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 11:00 am (UTC)
He did alright with me, I guess. :)
moonpuppy61
Nov. 20th, 2004 06:18 am (UTC)
That is wonderful. I'm so glad your parents loved each other and showed it in so many ways.

I try to live up to the example of my parents' marriage for my relationship. Which is why I'm single.
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:53 am (UTC)
hee hee! Yeah, I must admit I'm pretty lucky to have them as folks.
shannystalker
Nov. 20th, 2004 07:47 am (UTC)
I came across this through a friend, and your post made me cry in a good way.

Thanks.
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:53 am (UTC)
Aw, thanks for stopping by! :)
shannystalker
Nov. 22nd, 2004 03:23 pm (UTC)
Considering that this Wednesday is the fifth anniversary of my mother's passing, your post was very timely for me.
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 03:58 pm (UTC)
It's good to remember. :)
shannystalker
Nov. 22nd, 2004 04:02 pm (UTC)
Yes it is, even if it's sometimes painful to do so. :)

Would you mind if I added you?
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 04:15 pm (UTC)
It'll always be a little painful, but that's ok. Like Mama said in Torch Song Trilogy, you get used to it like a pair of eyeglasses - it becomes a part of you, and it makes sure you never forget.

And yes, feel free to add me if you like. :)
minotaurs
Nov. 20th, 2004 09:51 am (UTC)
That's really sweet - and a wonderful present for your mom.
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:53 am (UTC)
Yup yup. She cried, of course, but she accepted it as such - a gift.
pinoyboytoy
Nov. 20th, 2004 02:01 pm (UTC)
He was a great man. I really wish I could have met him honey.
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:54 am (UTC)
In a way you are when you hear stories like this. Plus I have a lot of his traits. :)
hearseboi
Nov. 20th, 2004 02:50 pm (UTC)
pretty amazing isnt it. Kinda shows us how those little things can mean so much!
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:54 am (UTC)
VERY much. I hope I remember that for a long time.
nazcr
Nov. 21st, 2004 03:50 pm (UTC)
Oh Buddy....Thanks for making me cry....
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:54 am (UTC)
You and Mom both! :D
esprix
Nov. 22nd, 2004 10:55 am (UTC)
(And me, a little.)
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