Plus side - he actually lives in San Diego, is a great guy, heart of gold, seems loyal, is totally hot, seems to like me, and I think, given time, I could fall for him.
Negative side - I met him second, he's "new to the scene," has a lot to learn (and I'd have to be his teacher), not sure about his emotional maturity, and there's a bit of sexual incompatibility (which could change over time, if I give him enough time, patience and a little bit of instruction). I also get the impression that I'm gonna get the "let's be friends" speech once he meets another new shiny penny, being as he's so new.
Decisions, decisions. But I don't want to break his heart, as he's more attached to me now than I am to him - that seems obvious.
Blah. When it rains, it pours. (I know, I said that already.)
Eventually I'll fill in all the details, but gotta be careful what I put out there on the internet for all to see. We know how that ended LAST time, don't we, my fellow Dopers? ;)