- Have any of the comments you've gotten in any of the anonymous communities ever hurt your feelings?
Only one, which was this comment made about my father's death. That was low. But other than that, no, not really, although I have felt the need to jump in and clear things up from time to time under my own name. After all the stuff that's been slung at me over the years at the Dope I like to think I can pretty much take whatever's dealt out to me (and I can deal it back as well). Of course, now that I say that, someone will start a thread about me. Bleargh.
I've been planning on having a commitment ceremony regardless of what the government might say about it - after all, UUs have been gay-affirming for decades now. In that vein, there's a lot of tradition I'm fine with - saying vows, exchanging rings, making a public commitment, having a ceremony and a party with family and friends, etc.
I think I would avoid going way overboard with all the planning, mostly because I have no money, but also because I've been to and performed at many, many weddings, and no matter how much each bride swears that her wedding is going to be so much different than any other wedding, they're deluding themselves - the only thing that changes are the color of the bridesmaids' dresses and the centerpieces at the reception. Just stick with the basics and try to make it a fun time for the guests as well as us without spending $4,000 on tablecloths.
However, there are a few things I would consider - having people stand during the ceremony to talk about us (a toast/roast kinda thing), two dance floors at the party (one country western, one rock/dance), foregoing formal attire, whatever.
So, yeah, basically it'd be mostly traditional. And I suppose I'd let Q offer some suggestions, although whether or not I use them depends on if it fits into my plans. (What? Oh, hi, honey! Hee hee!)
I have always believed that stereotypes exist for a reason - they do exist among the individuals of a community. However, I am of the opinion that although some people may exhibit some stereotypical qualities, no one person truly exhibits them all. So, yeah, I've been known to be a flamer, sleep around with a lot of guys, and even do drag, but I also have no fashion sense, don't go to the gym, and read science fiction. I'd say the same about others in the gay community, and can see it evident in other communities (blacks, women, Asians, etc.)
Cookies & cream ice cream!
Whew. Tough one. I would say yes, I'd want the power, but I say that knowing that absolute power corrupts absolutely. If I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that, say, Osama bin Laden was guilty of the 9/11 attacks, then I would wish him dead right now. If I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that someone was going to die a painful death, I would wish them dead quickly to avoid their suffering.
But of course, it's that "without a shadow of a doubt" that would probably prevent me from ever actually using it - how could I ever be sure? Look at all the death row inmates freed when new evidence is revealed. Even if no one knew, if I ever found out I was wrong, I don't know if I could live with that knowledge.
Good questions! Thanks, Libby!