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Grindr etiquette question: If you message someone "Hey" or "Hi" and their reply is, "Not interested," should you be irked that they were so rude, or should you be thankful they bothered to reply at all?

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justplainbryan
Nov. 26th, 2012 10:01 pm (UTC)
I personally would be thankful they replied back, and I'd respond with a "Thank you for your honesty!". But then again, I'm a nice guy. :)
doniago
Nov. 26th, 2012 10:38 pm (UTC)
Thanksgiving!
Agreed on the thankful part, but I'd probably defer the expression of thanks. :)
esprix
Nov. 27th, 2012 12:14 am (UTC)
Re: Thanksgiving!
Ditto.
esprix
Nov. 27th, 2012 12:14 am (UTC)
You are a nice guy, but I didn't think you were a pushover. ;P
justplainbryan
Nov. 28th, 2012 11:05 pm (UTC)
A true gentleman is polite even when he doesn't have to be. I've taken that to heart in all my dealings with people. :)
esprix
Nov. 29th, 2012 07:27 pm (UTC)
You are wise indeed. ;)
jezebelleinhell
Nov. 26th, 2012 10:47 pm (UTC)
maybe a little bit of both
esprix
Nov. 27th, 2012 12:14 am (UTC)
Yeah, I think that was it. But we came up with a better description - it was just plain tacky. :)
jimcyl
Nov. 27th, 2012 04:23 am (UTC)
Think of it this way. They told you two important things.

1. They are incredibly shallow and would never think of (*gasp*) talking to someone.
2. They did you a favor by revealing themselves as a giant douche.
esprix
Nov. 29th, 2012 07:29 pm (UTC)
Oh, no doubt, but it was just sort of shocking. Usually it's no reply at all, a polite "thank you," or even friendly chit-chat. Rarely have I been forced to talk to the hand so quickly. :)
ben_raccoon
Nov. 27th, 2012 05:40 am (UTC)
What Jim said. They did, after all, just do you the favor of letting you know they're a dick within the first sentence. Sometimes it takes 'til the third date!
doniago
Nov. 27th, 2012 06:32 am (UTC)
Expecting depth on Grindr is likely to be an exercise in disappointment though...
esprix
Nov. 29th, 2012 07:30 pm (UTC)
Expecting it may be disappointing, but it has been known to happen from time to time. I've actually at least chatted with a few nice people, and even met a couple.

Sadly, even though people on Scruff and Growlr may, overall, be somewhat nicer, the odds aren't any different in my experience.
esprix
Nov. 29th, 2012 07:29 pm (UTC)
Indeed! It was the abruptness of it, I guess.
moonpuppy61
Nov. 28th, 2012 02:02 am (UTC)
You are a wonderful person and can contain legions.

You can be thankful that there was a response.
You can be irked at the rude dismissal.
You can be sad that you were judged on so little as a profile and an "hey".
You can be amused at the foibles of mankind seeking instant gratification and yet missing it by short-sighted haste.
You can feel disdain for a toxic Grindr culture.
You can enlightened that sometimes a quick closure may be the best that can be done for a situation.

You can feel any and all of the above. Or even something I haven't mentioned. Be exceptional and do all that suit you.
esprix
Nov. 29th, 2012 07:31 pm (UTC)
OMG GET THESE LEGIONS OUT OF ME! ;)

You're so wise. :D
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