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If people keep asking you, "Why are you being such a bitch?" you might be being a bitch.

If people keep asking you, "Why are you being so rude?" you might be being rude.

If you take pride in either of these things, I don't know that I want to be friends with you.

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dragonblink
Sep. 14th, 2011 09:04 pm (UTC)
As a corollary, if you keep having to explain to people that you're not racist/sexist/classist/homophobic/etc, you might actually be racist/sexist/classist/homophobic/etc. And by "might" I mean "almost definitely".
esprix
Sep. 14th, 2011 09:10 pm (UTC)
Oh quite. I mean, how long does it take before you realize that it really IS you?
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suba_al_hadid
Sep. 14th, 2011 09:58 pm (UTC)
Ayup. Knew someone like this. Fled.
esprix
Sep. 14th, 2011 10:21 pm (UTC)
Smart cricket. :)
justplainbryan
Sep. 14th, 2011 10:38 pm (UTC)
It's a dangerous mistake to believe that being rude or bitchy is synonymous with being an honest person, and that being this type of honest person will endear you to others. Unfortunately, it's a mistake that is all too often made.
esprix
Sep. 14th, 2011 10:44 pm (UTC)
But they're just "keepin' it real," you see. If you can't handle it, that's your fault!
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esprix
Sep. 15th, 2011 02:55 pm (UTC)
Brilliant!
esprix
Sep. 14th, 2011 10:45 pm (UTC)
(This is also why I so enjoy the "nice, necessary, true" test that bovil introduced me to. Before you say something, it must meet at least two of those three criteria.)
jkusters
Sep. 15th, 2011 07:14 pm (UTC)
Very true. Sad, that.
sistercoyote
Sep. 14th, 2011 11:33 pm (UTC)
Yeah, there are ways of being honest and true to one's self that don't involve tearing down everyone around you. Rude is unnecessary, IMO.

Also: If you keep getting the same response from different people, the "problem" might not be them.
esprix
Sep. 15th, 2011 02:55 pm (UTC)
Sometimes it's not the universe that's wrong, it's actually you. :)
bovil
Sep. 14th, 2011 11:52 pm (UTC)
This sounds like the gay version of "you might be a redneck..."
esprix
Sep. 15th, 2011 02:55 pm (UTC)
"You might be a douchebag if..."
adventdragon
Sep. 15th, 2011 12:14 am (UTC)
And yet you still wish to be friends with me. Huh.
esprix
Sep. 15th, 2011 02:56 pm (UTC)
Your honesty has purpose. Deep down you're not an intentionally mean person.
akirashima
Sep. 15th, 2011 12:18 am (UTC)
Interesting. I often get that i always sound angry. but i know i am not angry all the time. OH i have my moments but in all honesty i am not much of an angry person but evidently sound so. the only thing this does is make me want to pour boiling water into my open neck hole to damage the vocal cords so that i do not sound that way to people.
esprix
Sep. 15th, 2011 02:56 pm (UTC)
It's helpful to know how you come across, though, because even if you can't mitigate it, you can at least be aware of how you might be perceived.
akirashima
Sep. 16th, 2011 06:00 pm (UTC)
It still makes me sad. definitely not proud
esprix
Sep. 16th, 2011 06:05 pm (UTC)
No need to be sad - it just is. As I said, knowing is half the battle. :)
akirashima
Sep. 16th, 2011 06:11 pm (UTC)
ben_raccoon
Sep. 15th, 2011 02:25 am (UTC)
I've encountered somebody like that, too. And the best part is that he takes 'hey, you're being an asshole' to mean, 'Hey, you should be MORE of an asshole.' Then he whines that he doesn't have any friends.

Some people simply will never learn. :/
esprix
Sep. 15th, 2011 02:57 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I never got that, either. It's like people are so fucking stubborn that OMG THEY'RE SO NOT EVER WRONG that if they go even further in their douchebaggery it'll somehow come full circle and they'll end up being right.
(Anonymous)
Sep. 16th, 2011 03:30 am (UTC)
Hmmm. I do agree. Just thinking though that some of us lucky lucky people are surrounded by effing narcissists in our day to day life and when they repeatedly accuse one of being rude or a bitch they are in fact projecting like WHOA.

Don't ask me why I'm thinking like this.

Oh by the way Tara just went home.

esprix
Sep. 16th, 2011 04:04 pm (UTC)
A complete coincidence I'm sure. :P
(Anonymous)
Sep. 16th, 2011 03:40 am (UTC)
Sorry, that was me (Thalia). Forgot my LJ password and it's late and I'm not retrieving the fool thing now.
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